Registration is Open for the “Together for Adoption Regional Conference” in N.C.

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Each year Together for Adoption offers several 1-day conferences in various regions of the county. The hope is that attendees will leave these regional events with a deeper sense of God’s adopting love and a better understanding of how to love and care for orphaned and vulnerable children in tangible ways. This conference is not just for those who are considering adoption/fostering, in the process of adoption/fostering, or have already adopted/fostered. The approach is to consider what our adoption in Christ is and to explore its implications for Christian living, orphan and foster care, and adoption.

Registration for the Together for Adoption Regional Conference near Winston-Salem NC, April 28th, is now open. The conference will be hosted at Calvary Baptist Church (West Campus), see link for directionsRegistration is only $29 per person, and it will be well worth it. As for lodging, T4A has negotiated special agreements with these two area hotels. Here is what you can look forward to at the conference.

Conference Schedule:

8:00am – Doors Open (Check-in & Registration)
9:00am – Main Session 1The God Who is a Father to the Fatherless | Dan Cruver
10:30 am – Breakout Session 1

  1. Orphan Care 101 – John Raymer
  2. Foster Care 101 – Tamarian McIntyre
  3. Adoption 101 – Jim Woodward
  4. Orphan Care & Grassroots Movements – Chris Marlow
  5. Transracial Adoption – Jena Penner
  6. Adopting Older Children – Jodi Jackson Tucker
  7. Worship and Social Justice – Jake France
  8. How to Choose an Adoption Agency – Lifeline

11:30 am – Lunch & Networking
1:00 pm – Main Session 2Eating at the King’s Table | Burk Parsons
2:00 pm – Breakout Session 2

  1. Being a Church That Cares for the Orphan – Matt Capps
  2. After Adoption: Unique Challenges & Joys – Shelly Roberts (ABBA Fund)
  3. Funding Your Adoption – Dwain Gullion (ABBA Fund)
  4. Trafficking and the Orphan – Michael Vinson (HopeChest)
  5. Special Needs Adoption – Nikki Esquivel
  6. HIV / AIDS Orphan Care and Adoptions – Deanna Jones (Project Hopeful)
  7. Foster Care as a Demonstration of the Gospel: Reconciliation and Adoption – Jon Bolin
  8. Singles and Adoption – Jason Cornwell

3:15 pm – Main Session 3What Makes God Excited (Ephesians 1:1-10) | Jason Cornwell
4:15pm – Close & Networking

– Here is more information about the Main Session Speakers –

Dan Cruver 

 Before founding and directing Together for Adoption, Dan was a college professor of Bible and Theology. He has also served as a pastor of family ministries. As one who has been adopted by God and has adopted two children, Dan founded Together for Adoption to equip churches and educate Christians theologically about orphan care and horizontal adoption. Dan regularly writes and speaks about the Gospel and its implications for earthly adoption and the care of orphans. Dan is the editor and primary author of Reclaiming Adoption: Missional Living Through the Rediscovery of Abba Father, wrote the foreword to Heirs with Christ: The Puritans on Adoption by Dr. Joel Beeke and is a regular contributor to The Gospel Coalition Blog.

Burke Parsons 

 Burk Parsons serves as associate pastor at Saint Andrew’s, and he is editor of Tabletalk magazine. He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in biblical studies from Trinity College and the Master of Divinity degree from Reformed Theological Seminary, where he is also completing his Doctor of Ministry degree. He speaks regularly at various conferences and schools in the United States and abroad and has contributed to various books and journals. He is author of the forthcoming booklet Why Do We Have Creeds? . He is editor of the books Assured by God: Living in the Fullness of God’s Grace and John Calvin: A Heart for Devotion, Doctrine, and Doxology .

Jason Cornwell 

 Jason is a resident of Greenville, SC, where he assists Pastor Brian Habig and the other elders at Downtown Presbyterian Church (PCA). Originally from Western PA, Jason holds a Bachelor of Science in Music Education and a Master of Arts in Biblical Studies. He earned his Master of Divinity degree from Reformed Theological Seminary-Charlotte in 2006 and is the author of Gospel Quality. Jason has been heavily involved with all four of the Together For Adoption Conferences.

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The Roots Reading Initiative from PLNTD, Round 3!

For the third round of the Roots Reading Initiative we are focusing on Marriage. We allowed a few extra days in the first week to give you guys some time to jump in, while keeping the schedule to one book per month. Even though we are in the second week its not too late to join in.

Tim Keller – The Meaning of Marriage

  • March 1 – March 10 (9-76)
  • March 11 – March 17 (77-133)
  • March 18 – March 24 (134 – 191)
  • March 25 – March 31 (192 – 244)

Paul David Tripp – What Did You Expect?

  • April 1 – April 7 (9-83)
  • April 8 – April 14 (85-149)
  • April 15 – April 21 (151-217)
  • April 22 – April 30 (219-287)

To sign up join the PLNTD Cobblestone Network for pastors/church planters.

8 Insights from Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage”

I recently finished Tim and Kathy Keller’s book The Meaning of Marriage. While I was reading it I highlighted and took plenty of notes. As an overview I have organized those notes below as “8 Insights from the Meaning of Marriage”.

Keller begins the book by stating that many of us come into marriage with unrealistic expectations, philosophical objections, conflicted personal emotions, and negative experiences pertaining to marriage and family life. On top of that, there seems to be a pessimism from an unrealistic idealism about marriage, born of a significant shift in our cultures understanding of the purpose of marriage. Keller makes the case that “we come into our marriages driven by all kinds of fears, desires, and needs. If I look to my marriage to fill the God-sized spiritual vacuum in my heart, I will not be in a position to serve my spouse.” (72)

Ironically, this post enlightenment (marked by gratification, satisfaction, and fulfillment of our desires) view of marriage “actually puts a crushing burden of expectation on the spouses in a way that more traditional understandings never did. And it leaves us desperately trapped between both unrealistic longings for and terrible fears about marriage.” (29) The situation seems dire. But there is hope, hope for those who learn to apply the gospel of Jesus Christ to/in their marriages. It seems that Keller writes with an aim to assist couples move from a fragile into a tested and durable marriage. It is important to note how Keller defines marriage.

“a lifelong, monogamous relationship between and man and a woman. According to the bible, God devised marriage to reflect the saving love for us in Christ,  to refine our character, to create stable human community for the birth and nurture of children, and to accomplish all this by bringing the complementary sexes into an enduring whole life union.” (16)

I will certainly not rehearse every argument in the book. I encourage you to read it for yourself. But I would like to highlight some important insights from my own book notes.

1.      Marriage is Glorious but Hard

Marriage is anything but sentimental. Marriage is glorious but it is hard. Coming to know your spouse is difficult and painful yet rewarding and wondrous. Keller argues that in marriage we are forced to “changes our natural instincts, rein in our passions, learn denial of one’s own desires, and to serve others.” (32) What makes this hard is that we have “two flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love, and consolation – a haven in a heartless world.” (35) The Christian view of marriage does not offer a choice between fulfillment and sacrifice but rather mutual fulfillment through mutual sacrifice.

2.      Marriage Unites Neighbor/Strangers

Keller writes that “when you first fall in love, you think you love the person, but you don’t really. You can’t know the person right away. That takes years. You actually love the idea of the person – and that is always, at first, one-dimensional and somewhat mistaken.” (94) But one quickly learns that marriage brings you into more intense proximity to another human being than any other relationship can, Beyond that, “over the years you will go through seasons in which you have to learn to love a person you didn’t marry, who is something of a stranger. You will have to make changes that you don’t want to make, and so will your spouse.” (39) Stanley Hauerwas argues that “the primary problem [in many marriages] is…learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.” (134) Marriage brings out and reveals traits in you that were there all along but were hidden from everyone including you, but now they are all seen by your spouse. In marriage you are exposed. You finally have your mask and finery stripped away, as it were. “Marriage does not so much bring you into confrontation with your spouse as confront you with yourself.” (140)

3.      Marriage Requires Mutual Grace

“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw us.” (95) This is true, but it is hard. It requires us to face the truth about ourselves and one another. But alone with truth, we need love. “Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.” (48) See, truth without love ruins oneness, and love without truth gives the illusion/ of unity but actually stops the journey, this is why marriage needs grace. Without grace truth and love cannot be combined. Spouses either stay away from the truth or attack one another. “One of the most basic skills in marriage is the ability to tell the straight, unvarnished truth about what your spouse has done – and then, completely, unself-righteously, and joyously express forgiveness without a shred of superiority.” (165)

4.      Marriage Revolves Around Service

It takes a loss of pride and self-will for a person to humbly serve others. Keller argues that only if you have learned to serve others by the power of the Holy Spirit will you be able to face the challenges of marriage. “There are three possibilities: you can offer to serve the other with joy, you can make the offer with coldness or resentment, or you can selfishly insist on your own way.” (54) When facing any problem in marriage, the first thing you look for at the base of it is, in some measure, self-centeredness and an unwillingness to serve or minister to the other. (59) The Christian principle that needs to work is Spirit-generated selflessness – “not thinking less of yourself or more of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” (66)

5.      Marriage is a Covenant of Action

When one studies a covenant it becomes clear that love is fundamentally action rather than primarily emotion. To be united to someone through a covenant is to be bound by promise, or oath. A covenant has horizontal aspects as well as vertical. “The covenant made between a husband and a wife is done ‘before God’ and therefore with God as well as the spouse.” (83) “Love needs a framework of binding obligation to make it fully what it should be. A covenant relationship is not just intimate despite being legal. It is a relationship that is more intimate because it is legal.” (85) It gives us the assurance of commitment (it fortifies you) so wedding vows are not a declaration of present love but a mutually binding promise of future love. (87) “This enables one to grow in breadth and depth, because a covenant gives the security necessary to open ones heart and speak vulnerably and truthfully without being afraid that the partner will walk away.” (89) Our emotions are not under our control, but our actions are. This is why Keller pleads with the reader not to waste time bothering whether you “love” your neighbor, but act as if you did.

6.      Marriage has a Sanctifying Mission

Being created in God’s image means that we were designed for relationships. Our intense relational capacity, created and given to us by God, is purposely not fulfilled completely by our “vertical” relationship with him. God designed us to need “horizontal” relationships with other human beings. (111) Keller argues that marriage is for helping each other to become our future glory-selves, the new creation that God will eventually make us.” (120) One must be able to say “I see your flaws, imperfections, weaknesses, dependencies. But underneath them all I see growing the person God wants you to be.” (122) This is the essence of true spiritual friendship, eagerly helping one another know, serve, love, and resemble God in deeper and deeper ways. Sanctification is a group project, and most intense between two spouses. “On the one hand, the experience of marriage will unveil the beauty and depths of the gospel to you. It will drive you further into reliance on it. On the other hand, a greater understanding of the gospel will help you experience deeper union with each other as the years go on.” (48) This is The reason that marriage is so painful and yet so wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel, which is painful and wonderful at once.” (48)

7.      Marriage Necessitates Understanding

Everyone comes into marriage with an idea of gender roles and expectations. God originally intended men and women together, in full participation, carrying out God’s mandate to build civilization and culture. Neither sex has all the characteristics necessary to fulfill this alone, only in complementary union can mankind achieve God’s purposes. But often these differences are turned into opportunities for rebellion and oppression. The gospel calls both women and men to “play the Jesus role” in marriage, men modeling sacrificial authority and women modeling sacrificial submission. This requires a full embrace of the other. We accept and struggle with the otherness of the spouse, and in the process, we grow and flourish in ways otherwise impossible.

8.      Marriage is not the “End All Be All”

We should be neither overly elated by getting married nor overly disappointed by not being so – because Christ is the only spouse that can truly fulfill us and God’s family the only family that will truly embrace and satisfy us. The Christian hope makes it possible for singles to live fulfilled lives without a spouse or children, but it also was an impetus for people to marry and have children and not be afraid to bring them into this dark world. See, “without a deeply fulfilling love relationship with Christ now, and hope in a perfect love relationship with him in the future, people will put too much pressure on marriage to fulfill them.” (198) We need to guard from idolizing marriage but also idolizing the independence or personal fulfillment that keeps one from marrying.

You can purchase the book from Amazon here. Also, take time to explore the Meaning of Marriage web site.

Theological Reflections on Death and Dying

Introduction

It has been said that all we have to do is live long enough as we will be bereaved by death, and ultimately we ourselves will die. In a fallen world this is part of the framework of our existence, and yet when death comes it is, for the most part unexpected. We are often unprepared.

More so, in the modern western world death is something we rarely square up and face. D.A. Carson argues that “death has become the last taboo” (How Long, O Lord?, 103). We usually dont see the deceased until they have been “prepared”. Only in rare circumstances is it ok to express ones grief transparently. Again, “we find it exceedingly difficult to look death squarely in the face and talk about it.” (How Long, O Lord?, 104) But I propose that it would be helpful to look at death as preventative medicine in trying to establish some firm biblical theological structures to help us, as Christians, think about death. This is true not only for Christian thinkers but even for the secular. In fact,

“From Plato to Hegel and beyond, some of the greatest philosophers declared that what you think about death…is the key to thinking seriously about anything else – and, indeed, that it provides one of the main reasons for thinking seriously about anything at all. (Surprised by Hope, 6)”

A Theology of Death

The bible teaches that death, in a general sense, is ultimately the result of sin. (Gen. 2:17) The apostle Paul makes this explicitly clear in his letter to the Roman church by writing that “the wages of sin is death. (Rom. 6:23)” What does death entail? Traditionally theologians have viewed death in three categories.

Physical Death. In Genesis 3:19 the judgment for sin pronounced by God is physical death. God tells man that he will return to the dust of the ground from which he has come (Gen. 2:7) Paul also picks up on this connection in 1 Corinthians 15:55-56. Furthermore, several passages referring to Jesus physical death show that it was a direct consequence to human sin. (Rom. 4:25; 6:10; Gal. 3:13) To put it simply, post fall physical death is an inevitable reality for all of humanity. As Augustine argued, humanity moved from a state of being “able not to die” to “not able to not die.” (On Rebuke and Grace, 33) Furthermore, God’s common grace is seen in the sense that humanity continues to experience life, though fallen, is nonetheless still life.

Spiritual Death. The bible also talks about man being spiritually dead while physically living. The immediate consequence to the sin of Adam and Eve was spiritual death (Gen. 2:17). The language of this verse is often misunderstood. One might ask, why did Adam and Eve not drop dead at the moment their teeth broke the skin of the fruit? I believe the expression “in the day that you eat of it” is best understood as a Hebrew idiom meaning “as surly as you eat of it.” (See Geerhardus Vos, Biblical Theology, pp. 48-49) No longer did Adam and Eve enjoy the life giving presence of God, they were banished from the garden. This is, in many ways, the deepest loss of death – since the deepest meaning of life is fellowship with God. Similarly, Paul reminds the Ephesians that they were once dead apart from Christ but now have been made alive (Eph. 2:1-3).

Eschatological Death. This final death is often seen as the extension or finalization of spiritual death. This final death is the culmination of the spiritual death in which the individual is banished from the presence of God forever (Rev. 20:14-15) Eschatological death is the permanent abode following physical death.

Implications from a Theology of Death

First, death must not be seen as a supreme instance of cosmic lack of fairness, but as God’s just sentence against our sin. We are responsible participants in our own death, in that it is not simply something that happens to us, but we cause death by our sinfulness.

Second, One may ask ‘why death?’ Death is God’s limit on creatures whose sin is that they want to be gods (Gen. 3:4-5; Rom. 1:18-23). We are not gods; and by death we are reminded that we are only human.

Lastly, with 1 and 2 in mind, there is also another sense in which we cry out against this limitation because we have been made in the image of God and we want to live. Often people will rage against God because of death, but this assumes that He was unfair in passing the sentence that our sin deserved. Our rage is better directed at the ugliness of death and the wretchedness of sin.

The Christian’s Hope in Death

The Bible does not encourage us to suppress our grief when loved ones die, but it does insist that we do not “grieve like the rest, who have no hope” (1 Thess. 4:13) Where is our hope then? This may be, perhaps, one of the most underdeveloped aspects of evangelical practical theology. Our hope rests in Christ, more specifically, in his own defeat of death and bodily resurrection from death (John 11:25) N.T. Wright makes an important observation on this point.

“God’s intention is not to let death have its way with us. If the promised final future is simply that immortal souls leave behind their mortal bodies, then death still rules – since that is a description not of the defeat of death but simply death itself. (Surprised by Hope, 15)”

Christ’s bodily resurrection is the seal that sin and death have been defeated. Christ’s resurrection is also the first taste of what is to come, the physical reality,  for those of us who are in Christ. In a very true sense, God is going to do for us what he had done for Christ at Easter.

Therefore, believing the resurrection must cease to be a matter of inquiring to an event in the first century, but is a matter of hope here and now. The resurrection is ‘the’ defining event of the new creation, the new world that is coming through Jesus Christ. See, Jesus comes out of the tomb and inaugurates God’s new creation right in the middle of the old one, the world we occupy. This is our grounds for hope, and the down payment for our future lives.

We thank God that through the work of Christ we may also be delivered form this body of death and may look forward to receiving from Christ at the final resurrection a new body that will be conformed to “the body of his glory” (Phil. 3:21). And we, who are in Christ, also hope in the life to come, eating from the tree of life from which our first parents were driven away (Rev. 22:2). Our ultimate hope is found in the new heaven and new earth (Rev. 21:3-4).

Ministering to the Grieving

D.A. Carson writes:

“Anyone who has suffered devastating grief or dehumanizing pain has at some point been comforted by near relatives of Job’s miserable comforters. They come with their cliches and tired, pious mouthings. They engender guilt when they should be administering balm. They utter solemn truths where compassion is needed. They exhibit strength and exhort to courage where they would be more comforting if they simply wept. (How Long, O Lord?, 221)”

First, we must recognize that grief normally passes through different stages and is expressed by a variety of emotions, which is all dependent on the person mourning and the circumstances of their loss. Be sensitive and wise with how you comfort.

Second, sometimes it takes longer for a person to heal than you might expect. There needs to be a balance of patience and encouragement. It might take months or even years until one has completely moved through the grieving process, perhaps before they are ready to move on or even talk about it.

Third, in the midst of suffering the most comforting thing is simply presence, help, silence, and tears. Intellectual answers do not readily satisfy. There is much wisdom in the word “mourn with those who mourn” (Rom. 12:15).

Fourth, keep in mind that once the initial shock lifts the questions will come. Sometimes questions simply reveal that the grieving is seeking comfort. Carson notes that sometimes the questions reveal that the grieving do want an answer, even if brief. Perhaps a brief answer is all they can bear.

Lastly, above all, our aim must be to help the grieving know God better. To this end we must aim and pray, that “God himself is the one who comforts the downcast; He is the  God of all comfort” (2 Cor. 7:6; 2 Cor. 1:3)

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D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones on Gospel Preaching

When one preaches the gospel of Jesus Christ there are usually religious legalists who claim that it produces antinomianism. Lloyd-Jones said this is a good sign:

There is no better test as to whether a man is really preaching the New Testament gospel of salvation than this, that some people might misunderstand it and misinterpret it to mean that it really amounts to this, that because you are saved by grace alone it does not matter at all what you do; you can go on sinning as much as you like because it will redound all the more to the glory of grace. That is a very good test of gospel preaching. If my preaching and presentation of the gospel of salvation does not expose it to that misunderstanding, then it is not the gospel.

From Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Romans: A New Man, 8-9. Quoted in Jared Wilson, Gospel Wakefulness, 114.

Saturday Seminar on Luke with Dr. Steve McKinion

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On February 25th we will have another Saturday Seminar in Biblical Interpretation on the Gospel of Luke with Dr. Steve McKinion from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, where he serves as a Associate Professor of Theology and Patristic Studies. Here is a little background information on Dr. McKinion from his personal website.

He finished his BA at Mississippi College, his MA at the University of Mobile, and his PhD at the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, where he studied patristics with Iain Torrance. At age 27, after completing his PhD, he became a professor at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, where he has taught since. He has also been a Visiting Professor at the University of Mobile, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, and Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. Steve has also helped lead several church launches, and is currently leading a new church startup in Raleigh called New Covenant Fellowship. Writing has been a big part of his life.  In addition to the articles, dictionary entries, and books he has in print, he is currently completing two major projects: the Isaiah volume in the Reformation Commentary on Scripture with IVP, and Invitation to Historical Theology with Kregel.

Dr. McKinion has already published the books Life and Practice in the Early Church, A Commentary on Isaiah 1-39 in the Ancient Christian Commentary on Scripture Series, and Words, Imagery, and the Mystery of Christ: A Reconstruction of Cyril of Alexandria’s Christology.

See his personal website at – http://www.stevemckinion.com/

To sign up for this free training event please click on this link

Together for Adoption Regional Conference in N.C.

I am looking forward to being a part of this conference on adoption! If you are considering adoption, in the process of adoption, or have already adopted, I strongly encourage you to make attending the Together for Adoption regional conference a priority. Laura and I attended the Together for Adoption National Conference in 2009 where we were greatly encouraged and equipped for the unique blessings and challenges of adoption. Here is a blurb from the T4A website:

“The Together for Adoption regional conference will be held at Calvary (West Campus) near Winston-Salem, North Carolina on Saturday, April 28th. The primary objective for all of our conferences (both regional & national) is to magnify the adopting grace of God the Father in Christ Jesus and to mobilize the church for global orphan care. If you live in the Southeast, we hope you will join us and a great group of exhibitors for our first regional conference.

Registration is $39 per person. Online registration will in February.

Worship will be led by Kaleb Scharmahorn (listen to Kaleb’s worship band’s new CD).

Conference Schedule:

8:00am – Doors Open (Check-in & Registration)
9:00am – Main Session 1
The God Who is a Father to the Fatherless | Dan Cruver
10:30 am – Breakout Session 1
11:30 am – Lunch & Networking
1:00 pm – Main Session 2
The Church that Cares for the Fatherless | Jason Cornwell
2:00 pm – Breakout Session 2
3:15 pm – Main Session 3
Eating at the King’s Table | Burke Parsons
4:15pm – Close & Networking

More details are forthcoming.”

Don’t miss out on this opportunity!

“The Fullness of Time” – A Christmas Meditation

 “When the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son.”[1]

The good news of Christmas did not begin with the birth of Jesus. As Paul says in Galatians 4, God sent his Son when the time was complete. As if God was waiting for a specific time to unveil the most important part of redemptive history. What this verse affirms is that there had always been a plan. This story, this story that culminated in the life and work of Jesus began in the begining. As the Apostle John writes in opening words of his gospel account;

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made.”[2]

Throughout human history we have had small tastes, small glimpses into this plan. See, In the beginning man and woman were created to live in the presence of God. To reflect his beauty and enjoy his presence and blessings. Yet, our first parents followed the lies of a serpent and turned their backs on God’s fatherly provision and tried to establish their own dominion, breaking the harmony of created order. As a result of the fall,  sin entered our world – with it came pain, suffering, disease, disaster, and death. Since then, the majority of human history has been a record of wars, conflict, and longings. But even in the hardest times, there have been small tastes of the redemption that was to come. Take a few examples from the story of humanity:

  • Immediately following the fall of mankind God covers Adam and Eve’s shame with the skin of a sacrifice. God also promises that from Eve, in her descendants, one would come to crush the head of the evil one, destroying his power.
  • Later God chooses a man by the name of Abraham, tells him to leave all he has known, and promises that he will Father a new, people, a people from many nations.
  • After Abraham, a man by the name of Moses is raised up to deliver God’s people out of slavery under Pharaoh in Egypt. Beyond this, Moses is also appointed to mediate between his people, all two million of them, and God almighty.
  • Consider the young Shepherd boy named David who stepped out against his people’s enemy Goliath in war. There he was, a young untrained boy representing his people against a fierce and decorated warrior. David won and was anointed King of Israel

Human history is a story of longing. A story of a people longing to see the end of pain, suffering, disease, disaster, and death. A story of an exiled people trying to get home in the presence and care of their loving Father. A people who have carried the burden of sin. A people who have cried out for deliverance. A people who long to have a good King who rules with perfect justice and mercy.

 And God delivered.

At just the right time. In the fullness of time. When longings of humanity had reached their fullness. When God’s plan of redemption was ready for its culmination, He sent Jesus. And in the birth of Jesus we find our answer. We find in his fullness, what the heroes of the Old Testament gave us a brief taste of.

  • We find in Jesus the true and greater Adam who passed the test in the garden and whose obedience is accredited to us. Jesus is the descendant of Eve who destroys the curse of sin and death.
  • Jesus is the true and greater Abraham who answered the call of God to leave all the comfortable and familiar and go out into wilderness not knowing where he went to create a new people of God gathered from every tribe, tongue, and nation.
  • Jesus is the true and greater Moses who delivers his people from slavery of sin, and from the hands of a tyrant named death. Jesus, like Moses, stands in the gap between the people and the Lord and who mediates a new covenant.
  • Jesus is the true and greater David whose victory becomes his people’s victory, though they never lifted a stone to accomplish it themselves. Jesus is also the eternal king from the line of David who’s perfect rein will never end.

This is why we sing, “glory to the new born King, peace on earth, and mercy mild, God and sinners reconciled!” Jesus is our long awaited answer to our deepest longings. At his birth God announced that his kingdom was here, and now we as followers of Christ wait for the day for it to be consummated.

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The Gospel and Pastoral Burden

I have not been in full time ministry too long. But from what I can tell, pastoral ministry is one of the most unique vocations on earth. It is paradoxically one of the most rewarding and yet the heaviest things I have ever dedicated my life to. I reading a fellow pastor’s blog in which he described the “burden of pastoral ministry” as follows:

  • The leadership and financial stress and uncertainty of a high level entrepreneur.
  • The responsibilities teacher to clearly communicate the truth.
  • The weight of a counselor as everyone shares their deepest, darkest secrets, and problems expecting meaningful help.
  • The burden of an artist that weekly crafts and presents a message for all to see, hear, and critique.
  • The heart of a parent to make sure others experience the needed love and care.

If you are a pastor you can probably resonate with the general idea of these descriptions. What pastors can easily fail to recognize is that the desire to do well ministry can sometimes become elusively sinful. It’s very easy for pastors to take something good like ministry and allow it to become an idol (we place all of our hope in performing these expectations well) or a crushing self-righteous burden (we think we can and try and carry these expectations alone).

When we give in to performance idolatry or self-righteous burden carrying we have failed to believe the claims of the gospel itself. This is where I have found Tim Chester’s “four truths” so helpful. In the book You Can Change Chester argues that most of our sinful behavior and negative emotions arise because we are not believing one of these four truths as we should.

  1. God is great so we do not have to be in control.
  2. God is glorious so we do not have to fear others.
  3. God is good so we do not have to look elsewhere.
  4. God is gracious so we do not have to prove ourselves.

In another book, Everyday Church, he writes that “for the most part, our pastoral interventions go wrong not because we lack technique or knowledge or experience but because we as pastors have failed truly to believe one of these four truths about God.” (91) He then applies the four truths to pastoral ministry:

  1. If we don’t believe these truths we will think people need us to save them.
  2. If we don’t believe these truths we will fear how people will respond to us.
  3. If we don’t believe truths we will avoid difficult situations.
  4. If we don’t believe these truths we will try to impress others constantly.

If these claims are true, then we can deduce that most poor pastoral care comes down to not believing in the sufficiency of the gospel for every aspect of ministry. Pastor, you need to believe these truths. You need to feel these truths deep down in your heart. These gospel truths will set you. The first step in the process is to identify the sin. Think through these questions based on Chester’s list in Everyday Church (95).

  • Are you overbearing?
  • Are you inflexible or risk-averse?
  • Are you impatient with people?
  • Do you avoid responsibility?
  • Do you avoid confrontation?
  • Do you crave approval?
  • Do you behave differently around certain people?
  • Do you pretend or hide your true self?
  • Do you feel that ministry is a burden?
  • Do you crave approval?
  • Do you often complain?
  • Do you make people feel a burden of duty?
  • Do you have trouble sticking at things?
  • Do you take criticism and failure badly?
  • Do you find it hard to relax?
  • Are you proud, do you envy the success of others?
  • Do you make people feel guilty?

Pastor, do you see yourself in any of these descriptions? Remind yourself of the “four truths” and remember the words of Jesus:

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

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HT Justin Taylor